Dear Steve and Shirley,
I've been sleeping with my married best friend for almost fifteen years. He and I have been friends since high school, and we're in our late fifties now. No one suspects anything, and we're able to have sex in his house while his wife is home. I even have a key to their house to take care of their dog whenever they travel.
Oh yeah—I'm about to get married for the second time, and my best friend, who loves me dearly, is jealous. He said that once I get married, I'll cut him off sexually, but I tried to tell him that won’t be the case.
We were texting back and forth about how things will go once I’m married, and my fiancé read all of our texts. He said that he figured we were messing around, and now that he has proof, we should go to counseling before we get married. He was acting like it’s no big deal, so I asked him why he was so calm. He said he has a side chick too. He was relieved that I had been doing the same thing, because he said it was killing him to cheat on me repeatedly.
We’re done with hiding from the truth. He said that if I’m going to keep messing with my best friend, then I need to let his wife know what’s going on. He said that at our age, we need to be sexual with whoever suits our fancy because life is short.
I love the two men in my life for different reasons, and each one is so different in the bedroom. I told my lover that it’s time for us to be honest with his wife. He said that will never happen, and if she ever found out about us, he’d have to end the relationship with me.
But what if his wife is cool like my fiancé and she’s okay with it? I can’t see my life without my lover. So what should we do here?