Recently, Oprah Winfrey opened up about not being a mother and her longtime partnership with Stedman Graham.
The billionaire media mogul met Mr. Graham in 1986, and she actually considered being a mother during a short window of time when they were engaged.
In an interview with People magazine she says the following:
“At one point in Chicago I had bought an additional apartment because I was thinking, ‘Well, if we get married, I’m going to need room for children,’” said. Winfrey.
But the appeal of having kids started to fade into the background, as the 65-year-old reflected on the “the depth of responsibility and sacrifice that is actually required to be a mother.”
It was having people on her show that weren't very good at parenting that made her ponder whether she would be up to the challenge.
“I realized, ‘Whoa, I’m talking to a lot of messed-up people, and they are messed up because they had mothers and fathers who were not aware of how serious that job is,’” she said.
“I don’t have the ability to compartmentalize the way I see other women do. It is why, throughout my years, I have had the highest regard for women who choose to be at home [with] their kids, because I don’t know how you do that all day long. Nobody gives women the credit they deserve.”
Oprah also goes on to tell People Magazine that she didn’t want to make sacrifices as a mama, or a wife either.
“I used to think about this all the time, that I was working these 17-hour days, and so were my producers, and then I go home and I have my two dogs and I have Stedman, who’s letting me be who I need to be in the world. He’s never demanding anything from me like, ‘Where’s my breakfast? Where’s my dinner?’ Never any of that, which I believed would have changed had we married.”
Looking back, both partners agree that marriage would’ve been the deathknelll of their union.
“Both he and I now say, ‘If we had married, we would not be together,’” she adds. “No question about it — we would not stay married, because of what that would have meant to him, and I would have had my own ideas about it.”
So there you have it, straight from the Big O....it's always been a NO GO!